Blogging is a powerful medium. Blogs provides us with the means to network with other people who share our interest.
However, sometimes something we type in a blog comment can very easily be misunderstood and taken out of context.
This can lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict. Accusations are then made against the commenter that would never have been made in a face to face meeting.
Speed reading through posts or comments can also lead to misinterpretations.
Recently, I have had a couple of my comments misinterpreted by a particular blogger. Because my comments were misinterpreted this person became defensive.
I was not trying to debate with this person. They were just simply misinterpreting anything I said.
Perhaps, because of past disagreements they were looking for an argument from me.
This has all resulted in my becoming fearful of even commenting on their blog or any where they guessed blogged, as it seems that they are misunderstanding anything I remark and challenging me on every comment.
To avoid future conflict I asked this person to not comment on my blog anymore and I would not comment on theirs. This resulted in them blogging about the entire issue.
I made the mistake of trying to explain myself to them and how I felt, but I really don’t think they are listening. They still assume that I was trying to argue with them. “Sigh”
Now a simple misunderstanding has become an issue.
I really wanted to resolve the conflict, but I just don’t see that happening.
To avoid misunderstanding like this, we as bloggers need to be very cautious not to take what is being said out of context.
I know I have done it before and ended up hurting feelings.
We need to respect one another, and understand that it’ s not always easy to express ourselves online.
I know that I don’t always come across as clear as I’d like to in my writing.
This has been a helpful reminder to me and I hope it will be you too.
Checking assumptions is very important.
Before jumping to assumptions it might be best to ask a commenter to clarify what they meant. That way there will be no hurt feelings.
What do you think? Have you ever left a comment only to have it taken out of context?
How do you improve your online communication? I’d love to hear any tips that you might have on clearer communication.
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