My daughter is a beautiful young woman, but she suffers from a seriousness illness. At the age of 19 1/2 she has been been diagnosed with BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder.
I realize that many people still do not regard mental illness as ‘real’ in the same way as physical illness. However, mental illness is real. For those of you who suffer from a mental illness or have a loved one with one than you like me know how very ‘real’ it is. For the rest of you, well you have no clue.
Borderline Personality Disorder is real.
“BPD is characterized by marked impulsivity and instability of mood and interpersonal relationships. People suffering from BPD frequently also experience depression, severe anxiety and eating disorders.”
People with BPD often have a very hard time controlling their emotions. They may feel misunderstood, empty, and have little idea who they are. People who suffer from BDP are often described as a trap child who has lost all sense of self.
The Doctors Didn’t Have a Clue
For years now we have been dealing with my daughter’s illness never knowing what it was. One moment I was the most wonderful person to her and then in a matter of minutes she was despising me. I knew she was ill, but doctors never knew what was wrong. First she was labeled a troubled teen, then her psychologist diagnosed her as having ADHD. He started her on medication, but nothing helped.
I felt so helpless. I wanted to save her, but didn’t don’t know how. Her anger just built more and she became more depressed.
When my daughter was diagnosed just two weeks ago with BDP- Borderline Personality Disorder, I found myself searching frantically on the internet for some help or just someone to talk to.
That was when I came across Kris Ullands blog- Borderline Families. Kris has a daughter who also suffers
from BDP. Kris set out to write her blog in an attempt to find a community of parents dealing with the same issues. I’m glad she started her blog.
Kris has been such a big help to me. She’s offered that listening ear I so needed. It was nice to know that I wasn’t alone.
The treatment for BPD is psychotherapy, which my daughter starts this week. She has also started group treatment, Dialectical Behavior Therapy will teach her a variety of skills such as distress tolerance, emotion regulation, interpersonal effectiveness and mindfulness. I don’t know how successful it will be, but I sit here with hope.
She has a long journey ahead of her, but she isn’t alone. She has loving parents and a wonderful boyfriend, but in the end it does come down to her and her commitment to wanting help.
As I conduct more research on Borderline Personality Disorder I plan to post more information about BDP here and share the story of how we along with my daughter struggle with her illness.
I would love to hear from those who suffer from BDP or have a loved one who suffers from BDP.If you liked this post, why not buy me a coffee?