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She is not a burden

August 25th, 2010 by Rose DesRochers · 4 Comments

Parenting is a lifelong commitment. There are no holidays from being a parent.

My 20 year old daughter has Borderline Personality Disorder. Before you say “that must be so hard for you” allow me to tell you this.

Mental illness is just like a physical illness.

The pain of seeing my daughter go through this is difficult. No one wants to see their child sick. Having a daughter with BPD can be compared to when your baby is sick and you’re left in the dark, because your 5 month old baby can’t come out and say where it hurts. You have to watch for the signs.

My daughter has had bouts of depression, and rage attacks. She’s harmed herself and attempted suicide. She’s suffered from sexual addiction and an eating disorder. She impulsively shops, and at times lacks emotional control.

However, my daughter does not hold me down. I work, I still enjoy time with friends and family.

I enjoy quality time spent with her. She is there when I need a hug and she calls me everyday when she gets off work. Not because she needs me, but because I need that call from her.

Sometimes my daughter is in a”trapped child” zone though and wants someone to take care of her. But, don’t we all at times. Right now I’m sick from a viral infection and I’m whiny. When you or I are not well, what we mostly want is someone to look after us.

Life is filled with ups and downs. Things breakdown, jobs are lost, love ones get sick. I can dwell with all that is wrong in my life or I focus on what is good.

I have a loving husband and I have given birth to three beautiful children.

I don’t think of my daughter as being a burden and you shouldn’t either. My daughter is not a burden, she’s a blessing. Parenting is a responsibility and no personal responsibility should ever be considered a burden. My daughter is apart of my family and families support one another through the good and the bad. Whatever challenges we face, we face them together.

My daughter has a tough journey ahead, but she doesn’t have to walk it alone, because I’m there with her. After-all I am her mom.

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4 responses so far ↓

  • Jennifer
    Wrote: Aug 25, 2010 at 6:02 pm

    Thank you for sharing! You totally sound like you have the right attitude toward the situation. I have daughters with bipolar disorder and depression. Not easy but loved the same.


    Rose DesRochers Reply:

    Thank you Jennifer. From the sounds of it, you of all people can empathize.

  • Carl
    Wrote: Aug 26, 2010 at 12:18 am

    “when your baby is sick and you’re left in the dark, because your 5 month old baby can’t come out and say where it hurts. You have to watch for the signs.” Excellent description

    I taught music to 100’s of teens with this same illness

    They can be your best friend at one moment, and the next…

    I’m sure many parents will be very appreciative of this blog post.

  • LisaF
    Wrote: Aug 26, 2010 at 1:55 pm

    You are truly a blessing, to both your daughter and the rest of your family. Positive thoughts, attitudes and actions can make all the difference with any child, and especially with yours. I wish for you a strong support system to help you continue being an amazing parent.